If you're wondering where I've been.... and why I haven't updated much, it's because I've been dead.
Literally.
My life is so hard sometimes, just sayin'. Pitty party much? I keep thinking, 'when am I going to catch a break? When are things finally going to come up Milhouse for ol' Kelsey? When is it going to be my turn to blow up people's Facebooks with all my awesome adventures and better-than-everyone-elses' status updates?" I guess I could just remove myself from the social network atmosphere, but how else am I going to keep in touch with my family and friends? I know what you're thinking. "Gasp! Kelsey! Being jealous over something so trivial?! It's preposterous!".
I read this article in Cosmopolitan [I read it for the non sex articles, I swear!] and it completely changed my life. Facebook has been really getting me down for the last year or so. So much, that I've actually deleted people because I just hated them so much, and I was sick of hearing about and seeing how awesome their lives were. I know I don't exactly sound very noble, but I just couldn't handle it anymore. So when I read this article on my lunch break last Friday, I knew that someone out there, probably in heaven, probably my mom, or God, or something... was telling me that I'm not crazy for hating on everyone, and more importantly, that I wasn't alone in feeling this way. If I could just quote the parts that really hit me... ahem...
[Insert sigh of relief here]. I'm telling ya, this article was life altering. It truly resonated with me and made me feel not only better about my life, but better about myself because I'm not alone in thinking that my life isn't as perfect as someone elses.
Since this article came into my life four whole days ago, the drama within my family, grieving the loss of my mom, the art of skillfully learning my new job and knocking it out of the park, my relationship with my husband, and the usual events of my life that would normally bug the crap out of me- haven't necessarily dissipated, but have created a sense of symbiosis with my overall happiness. My life might be a thousand times harder than so-and-so's but I'm going to be a better, stronger, and more admirable person as a result.
... So suck on that!
Anyways, moral of the story is that Kelsey is doing better! Oh, and I just want to leave you with a picture of my kitten, who has wormed his adorable little way into my heart.
Literally.
My life is so hard sometimes, just sayin'. Pitty party much? I keep thinking, 'when am I going to catch a break? When are things finally going to come up Milhouse for ol' Kelsey? When is it going to be my turn to blow up people's Facebooks with all my awesome adventures and better-than-everyone-elses' status updates?" I guess I could just remove myself from the social network atmosphere, but how else am I going to keep in touch with my family and friends? I know what you're thinking. "Gasp! Kelsey! Being jealous over something so trivial?! It's preposterous!".
I read this article in Cosmopolitan [I read it for the non sex articles, I swear!] and it completely changed my life. Facebook has been really getting me down for the last year or so. So much, that I've actually deleted people because I just hated them so much, and I was sick of hearing about and seeing how awesome their lives were. I know I don't exactly sound very noble, but I just couldn't handle it anymore. So when I read this article on my lunch break last Friday, I knew that someone out there, probably in heaven, probably my mom, or God, or something... was telling me that I'm not crazy for hating on everyone, and more importantly, that I wasn't alone in feeling this way. If I could just quote the parts that really hit me... ahem...
Raise your hand if this scenario sounds familiar: after a [crappy] day at work or spat with your guy, you log on to Facebook and scroll through your friends' carefully curated photo albums and peppy status updates-"Adele concert was sick... So blessed to have the most amazing boyfriend/fiance/husband in the world... Just got a puppy!!!"
If your first thought is I'm so psyched for them, well, we want a piece of that selfless pie you're eating. For the rest, there's a good chance that you're comparing their "awesome" lives to your own, and especially when you're in a low moment, yours comes up short.
"It's human nature to assume others are happier than you are," says Jenn Berman, PhD. "Facebook exacerbates this tendency because so many people use it to self promote." Berman likens someone's profiles to a greatest hits album: "You never see their desperate moments, so you assume they don't have any, and you feel isolated and wonder why your life can't be as easy and wonderful as theirs is."
..."Seeing your peers excel in an aspect of life where you may be a step behind can make you feel like you don't measure up," says Berman.
[Insert sigh of relief here]. I'm telling ya, this article was life altering. It truly resonated with me and made me feel not only better about my life, but better about myself because I'm not alone in thinking that my life isn't as perfect as someone elses.
Since this article came into my life four whole days ago, the drama within my family, grieving the loss of my mom, the art of skillfully learning my new job and knocking it out of the park, my relationship with my husband, and the usual events of my life that would normally bug the crap out of me- haven't necessarily dissipated, but have created a sense of symbiosis with my overall happiness. My life might be a thousand times harder than so-and-so's but I'm going to be a better, stronger, and more admirable person as a result.
... So suck on that!
Anyways, moral of the story is that Kelsey is doing better! Oh, and I just want to leave you with a picture of my kitten, who has wormed his adorable little way into my heart.
